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My Father

Discussion in 'The Safe Harbor' started by SunFlower Star, Apr 7, 2011.

  1. SunFlower Star

    SunFlower Star Active Member

    My father is dying. Dad has congestive heart failure. He's gone through numerous surgeries over the years, but now, there just isn't any more the surgeons can do. He's being transferred to hospice today. I'll be flying out on Saturday. That's the soonest I could get a reservation. I'm just praying that I'll be able to see his face one more time before he passes. But, that's my own selfishness.

    He is 93 and has lived a long and happy life, but time catches up with all of us eventually. My big concern is Mom - s he's 92 and they've been together for nearly 70 years. This is going to devistate her. Her health is iffy. With early Altzheimer's, she has good days and bad days.

    John will not be accompanying me, at my request. He wanted to, but he's scheduled to start the new job on Monday, and I will have other support out there - my son, daughter-in-law, both grand-daughters, and (at least) one of my brothers. I don't know when, or if, my other three brothers will be there.

    So, your prayers for my family will be greatly appreciated ... Thank you.
  2. JacquieP

    JacquieP Well-Known Member

    Pat, I got your message before I left work and I put you on the Pastoral Care Department (the sisters and priests) list as well as the emergency list at church, so Leon and I will add to them. I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. It's never easy, but especially when you have a delay on getting where you need to go. Please keep checking to see about the availability of cancellations so you might be able to leave earlier. I don't think anyone would think you're selfish because you want to see your dad one more time, certainly not any of us who have ever been in the same situation! Hugs, friend!!!!
  3. reggae

    reggae Well-Known Member

    Pat, so sorry to read this.....no matter the age, it is your Dad, and I'll be praying that you get there to see him again.

    Prayers for you Dad, you, and all of your family....God bless..
  4. audrey

    audrey Well-Known Member

    pat prayers go out to you and your family
  5. Cruise cutie

    Cruise cutie Well-Known Member

    Pat I am so sorry for his failing health..and I also agree your wanting to see him is just fine, prayers he can be seen by you with his CHF..and may it be you are comforted in the Joy he has brought o you as a Dad over the years.Prayers and good thoughts... to you, your Mom, and your family....hugs Joanne and Mark
  6. popcorn

    popcorn Well-Known Member

    I hope you get to see him in time. Just remember the good times.

  7. Beryl

    Beryl Trivia Specialist

    Pat...tears in my eyes and pain in my heart for you in this difficult time that you are going through. I pray that you will be able to see your Dad again too! Know I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers! Many, many hugs!!
  8. Charles

    Charles Captain Weather

    I'm very sorry to hear this, Pat.

  9. bostongal

    bostongal Well-Known Member

    Pat - My heart goes out to you and your family. There is never a good time for health problems no matter what the age and I will keep you & your family in my thoughts & prayers. Safe travels!

  10. Mgram

    Mgram Well-Known Member

    Pat, I am so sorry to read this. I hope that you make it in time to see your Dad. Sending comfort to you and your family..........may your Dad's journey be a peaceful one.
  11. Judi

    Judi Well-Known Member

    Pat, as I told you earlier, Michael's and my prayers are added to the rest.

    And, my Friend, there is absolutely nothing selfish about wanting to see your Dad one more time.

    Hugs to everyone,
    Judi and Michael
  12. Lurline63

    Lurline63 Well-Known Member

    I am so sorry to hear this. Please be assured of my thoughts and prayers for your Dad, as well as for you and your family. Hugs.
  13. KathyC

    KathyC Well-Known Member

    I'm so sorry to hear this. Even though at 93, he has had a long life it is never easy letting go of the ones we love. We had a wonderful experience when we had hospice for my mother. My thoughts are with you during this difficult time.
  14. Krazy Kruizers

    Krazy Kruizers Holland America Specialist

    hope you get to see your father before he passes away -- 93 -- he certainly has lived a long time and has seen so many things

    thankfully you will have family there with you

    prayers for all of you to get through this difficult time
  15. Corky

    Corky Well-Known Member

    Pat - I am so sorry to hear this and I send to your dad a peaceful passage. I send to you and your family peace and love during this sad time.
  16. Karry

    Karry Well-Known Member

    I am so sorry to hear this. Sending prayers of comfort to you all.
  17. Whimsy

    Whimsy Well-Known Member

    My prayers are added to the others. I hope you get there in time to see your dad. It's not selfish at all to want another visit with him. Be thankful for all the good years you had with him.
  18. nieciez

    nieciez Well-Known Member Community Sponsor

    Oh Pat, I am so sorry to hear this. I know you've been concerned about your Dad and Mom. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
  19. korinalacount

    korinalacount Well-Known Member

    Pat,I am so sorry for your pain. I didnt get to say goodbye to my father or husband but know that your Dad DOES know you love him,I pray you get to have the closure I didnt in saying goodbye,that being said how wonderful that he and your Mom have had so many wonderful years together,as I go home to WI this June to scatter some of my beloveds ashes I will celelbrate my Moms 91st birthday,she still drives,gets about,has lived for 34 years alone in the house she and my Dad shared,I am blessed that she can do this,I am sorry John cant join you on your journey but I know he still will be with you in thought right by your side,Much love is being sent to you my friend and healing too that the next few days are peaceful for you and your family,I will be thinking of you,keep us posted,much love,Korina
  20. ShipMaven

    ShipMaven Forever Remembered

    Pat - I am so very sorry to read this. I pray that God keeps your Dad comfortable and that you can arrive in time to see him before God calls him. I'm here for you, too. Mega hugs.

    Mary Ann

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