Hey all....... Work is busssyyyyy and we have had a few set backs with Daddy. Everything was going along well until Saturday when Daddy started to vomit. Well Paula found the bed down while he was on the G tube. So she immediately got the nurse and demanded to know why this keeps happening. She rattled some cages and Daddy seemed to be OK although Paula and Joe were watching him closely and asking about fevers etc., . Sunday he had a better day and then on Monday morning he woke up fine, he was having a great day except it was an angry day for him. Paula went to see him at noon because he was yelling at the nurses, and he was once again ill. And the bed was down again while he was being feed with the G-tube. She immediately acted on it and of course we know that is why he was vomiting and they got him settled of course he stops eating by mouth, and then again that night Joe went in and his bed was down again. I flipped out when I heard that Daddy was sleeping allot and I became very concerned and expressed my feelings to my brother and sister that it is time to stop talking and demand corrections before someone kills him. For those that do not know if you place a person flat while they have a G-tube with food going directly into the stomach the food backs up and is aspirated into the lungs or can be. I feel so helpless here. Joe is not feeling well himself so I gave up trying to talk to him and had a heart to heart with my sister. I begged her to please go higher in the chain to get this remedied. The nurses are not making this error, the aides are when they move him and change him, but the nurses are not catching it. So today Paula visited the Director of Nursing. I called and had Daddy on hourly lung checks all last night, and today I made a request for doctor check . Still I didn't sleep at all last night wishing I could sit by his bed and watch over him to make sure he was OK. He was checked over and so far so good nothing noted in the lungs, but we have been promised that he will be closely monitored for pneumonia. What I don't like is his lack of energy which is what I noticed in the initial stages of his original pneumonia. I'm pretty tuned into his problems now so being here is driving me nuts....... Tonight Paula said he ate a small amount. still not himself but better than yesterday. He can't take another bout of pneumonia this just needs to stop! At my company it is drilled into our heads how important we are to a grieving family. We have a creed which at any time we had better be able to recite, and we had better perform our jobs living that creed or be subject to dismissal. We are constantly reminded that we cannot become complacent, that we must treat every decedent with the respect that we would want displayed to our own sibling, or parent or grandparent. And we do. I only wish some of these nursing facilities trained their CNA's in this same philosophy. The nursing supervisor was not happy to hear that the family is constantly finding this serious error which ahem, was not brought to her attention through reading his chart, even though Joe and Paula have reported it immediately to the nurses. The supervisor stated she would retrain any aide going into daddy's room about the dangers of their negligence and monitor his care herself. If this happens again, it won't be pretty because I'm going to be the one that is on the end of the phone and if I have to jump a plane and do it in person that could be even more scary. Tonight daddy showed Paula how he can lift his leg off the bed a few inches and he showed her how he can bend his knee. He has been ill so they haven't been working with him much. Tomorrow that is our task to get occupational therapy in there again. Of course I haven't been sleeping well with all of this on my mind at night. I wish the news was better, but it seems we take a few baby steps and then this serious error is made and we take a major step backward. This is 4 times that we know of.........it scares me to death! Dena quit smoking a week ago and is an absolute bear..........and I'm overtired and stressed.......it is a work in progress let me tell you. LOL We are right on main street and agreed to participate in the Halloween parade. We bought Candy for 2,000 kids and Dena told me to pick up some witches hats for us. Well she told me today she had to leave early Friday afternoon. And I said good that makes both of us because I'm on overtime by 8 hours so I'll just lock the door and turn the phones. She whipped around and looked at me and I said ohhhhhhh no you don't girlfriend, even though you don't need it, I bought you a witches hat, and the broom is in the closet so we do this together or not at all! LOL Then I told her if she leaves me alone I would rig a casket in the lobby to open when the door did and scare all the kids away. She said you wouldn't. I said don't test me! rofl OMG I'll go totally bonkers with 2,000 kids by myself. If our friendship lasts through the next 3 weeks we will be friends forever. I keep telling her this was not the right time for her to be so stupid and quit smoking, she laughs. Tomorrow she has a meeting in the morning, we have a rushed visitation in the afternoon which means I will have to do the set up, hair make-up retouch and flowers. I think it is time to ask for a big ole raise! I'm planning our Christmas Service sending out 200 invitations ordering refreshments etc, I just set up a new photo sharing process for our families, I am renting 2 vacant apartments above the mortuary, and trying to get repairs completed up there, and now the GM asked me to oversee some building construction changes we need to make. Oh yea I took 28 computer courses between last Wednesday and Sunday to get the first part of my in-house management degree program finished. If I finished before November 1st, I was promised a bonus. My plate is pretty full. And I haven't bought one Christmas Gift. This may be a year where the kids get presents and everyone else gets a gift card. I hate to do it but I'm running out of time. Dena had a service on Monday with about 275 people which we moved to another venue because our chapel was too small. I took the smaller service which turned into a really big service of 200 people. My chapel seats 80 with overflow of 40 eiy yi yi. Then the minister en-route got stuck in traffic behind a fatal accident (this was for my service) and I had to make the announcement that he was delayed because of a serious accident on the roadway. This minister had to walk a 1/4 mile to reach the police officers and beg them to get him off onto a side road somewhere so that he could get to my service. They got him out of there thank goodness he was about 30 minutes late though. So I invited my 200 people to get up and walk around and go outside or enjoy a drink of water due to the unforeseen delay. Most filed out of my mortuary into the streets, and then when the minister arrived, I had to get them all back inside. That backed up the committal which backed up Dena's committal which was scheduled for an hour behind mine at the same cemetery. We held up traffic downtown for about 20 minutes getting the procession out shutting down the streets . We got through it all and both families were very pleased with our service. Neither service was easy they were both young people. I came home exhausted, called Sis, got the bad news about Daddy and threw a hissy fit. I don't generally do that but I was over the edge tired and got so frustrated. Mike just sat there and let me ramble and curse until I ran out of energy or swears. I don't know which happened first. LOL The good news is that the bear I had sent to Daddy arrived that day. Paula arrived and Daddy said Paula what is that open it up for me. He never says please. LOL Paula said it is from Judy. He said no it isn't, it doesn't say Colorado on the box. Paula said that is because it was sent here, from a company,,,,,it is from Judy. I love it he remembers I'm from Colorado now. He looked at her, and in a way only he can make a point of being sarcastic, ,,, he asked her.... and howwwwwwww do you know that? And she said as sarcastically as she could muster beneath her snickers, because Judy called me and told me that she had sent it. Ohhh he said and smiled. Then he said it must be the citizen of the year award for me, and asked, what am I going to do with that? Paula said I'm putting it on the shelf right here so that when you look at it you will think about Judy and the deal you made with her about your exercise. OK he said and rolled his eyes. She told him to stop rolling his eyes stubborn old man that he is, and that the way he had been acting it certainly isn't any award for good behavior it is a warning shot that I'm following soon behind the bear! LOL She read him the letter I wrote and he asked when is she coming. Paula said 3 weeks so you had better get your act together and get working or you will be in big trouble! Yea I guess so, he said! Yes old man she said, you don't want Judy to be disappointed. Poor thing she is wearing down, she is tired. And I can't tell you how many times I have woken up in the morning and thought I need to go visit daddy before work. I'm all confused about where I am. LOL So that is about it guys. Hopefully by the weekend he is up and attem again. He is alert and very conscious of time, date, events. Today he remembered it was his granddaughters 4th birthday. *My half-brothers daughter*. Goes to show you the difference in age from Dad's first family to his second huh? I have grandchildren the same age as my half-brother's daughter. In fact I think my half-brother and my daughter are the same age. LOL If there is anything positive to come out of this, I am feeling very good about his mind. I did have many reservations when I was there. I wasn't sure he would ever come fully back in that regard. It is clear now that much of his confusion was a chemical inbalance problem which with good nutrition we have gotten back into check. From all reports now he seems pretty sharp. We just need to trudge onward! Thanks for all your prayers. I hope the next time I can bring you much better news.