A very wise person told me that funerals are for the living, but this we all knew. He then went on to explain that when his brother died, it was the preparation for the services, the services and the aftermath that helped his SIL cope. After, when everyone went home and she was left alone with her life... then it really sank in. I can see that that. Just thinking of dealing for the rest of my life without my daughter in my life is unthinkable. My prayers are said throughout the day for Cindy. God bless her and her family.